"Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself? Take those thoughts that come to you the moment you wake up in the morning. You have not originated them, but there they are, talking to you. They bring back the problem of yesterday. Somebody’s talking. Who’s talking? Your self is talking to you. "
Martin Lloyd Jones
Wow that concept really hit home with me. How am I speaking to myself? It's true, usually all the negative thoughts in my head originated in my own brain not someone else's. How do we help ourselves become more positive? Talk to yourself in a positive way. Keep an optimistic attitude even when you don't feel like it. Try using your name instead of mine in the examples below...
when waking up in the morning:
Carol, you're tired but you can take on this day. Just take one task at a time and do you best. You are strong and capable.
when trying something new:
Come on Carol, you can do it! Take a deep breath, visualize success and go for it!
when overcoming a negative opinion:
Carol, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. No one is exactly you so you have a unique gift to give the world. If someone doesn't like you that's none of your business. Keep your head up and keeping doing your thing.